Family Vision Statements
Family Vision Statements
I prepared this lesson for a Women’s speaking engagement, and people shared with me that it was a powerful hands on activity that helped to help strengthen their diverse family units. So I will post the activity online here.
We have walked beside so many friends, strangers, military families, (and ourselves!) who were sailing smoothly along – and then out of the blue, a life changing event happened, that left them asking – “What are we going to do now?” A loss of a family member, a difficult choice that is now having consequences, or even just the daily stress of finances, a chronic illness, or everyday life.
Creating and implementing a Family Vision Statement (also called purpose statement or mission statement) can be a powerful tool to strengthen and transform the trajectory of a family.
“We were honestly headed to rock bottom,” one mom told me. “But now we are on the same page and moving forward.” Implementing a Family Vision Statement can help stop the destructive cycles we often find ourselves in, and allow us to hear God’s heart for a new season in our families, and then run with joy and commitment towards it.
But Family Vision Statements are not just for use in hard times. They are a powerful tool that strengthens and prepares our families every day to have the patterns in place for effective communication, shared vision, and a clear measuring line to decide priorities. Developing a Family Vision Statement and implementing it together as a family can be a powerful tool to remove walls and reunite for a common purpose.
So, what is a Family Vision Statement? This fill in the blank lesson was used for a hands on exercise, so I am posting it below to share.
Family Vision Statement Activity
by Joy Brownlee
1) A Family Vision Statement is: a written statement that gives us a clear direction to run. A clear focus to measure our priorities against. A united purpose, and a united intention, that guides how we communicate and act within our families AND how our family _serves the outside community.
2) What does the Bible say about vision statements?
Habakkuk 2:2: “Write the vision, make it plain on tablets, so he may _run forth_ who _reads__ it.”
3) What does the corporate world say about vision statements:
“Vision statements are crucial to communicate within the organization and outside the organization, why your company will do what they do, what their goals are, and you can spend more time being _effective communicators _ instead of trying to fix poor communication problems later.” (Cella Business Corporate Consulting).
4) Two Notes:
* Vision statements are Not for __Perfect Families___. (They’re for imperfect progress.)
* A Vision statement is NOT saying that we are choosing to be in _Control__. (It’s the exact opposite. It’s surrendering together to run towards a united purpose as a family. We will fall on the way and we will each have to decide to get up and keep moving forward. We cannot control others, but we can decide the direction we keep focused on.)
5) Below are Examples of Family Vision Statements from real families, comprised of single or married parents from diverse cultures:
* We will keep moving forward.
* We will be joyful adventurers into forgiveness.
* We will choose joy.
* We are over-comers.
* We will shine God’s light and love.
6) Steps to Create a Family Vision Statement:
I. Pray___ We can give up trying to control our family and begin by connecting to our family with love and prayer.
II. Repent___ Give God permission to have the direction of your heart and your family. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and ask and extend forgiveness to members of your family unit as needed.
III. Listen___ We all have our own biases and shortcomings. Let’s listen as God and those we trust around us help give us feedback as to how we can move forward. One and two parent homes can seek family counseling during periods of time as needed. Divorced families can definitely still make a family vision statement together. If an agreement on some basic kind actions of treatment can be reached – what a difference that could make in the life of the children.
IV. Discuss and Create the Family_ Vision__ Statement_ for this season of your family. Discuss and revise. Include each person’s input. Use cultural and spiritual truths that are important to you to guide your family as you draft your family vision statement. Include Children in the process and remember there is not about a destination that we will arrive at, but a TRANSFORMATION or our hearts and mind – together.
VI. Celebrate_ Committed time each week (ie Friday Family Fun Night) to discuss, touch base, and celebrate the small steps of progress we make together.
* Film / Media movie that Highlights using a Vision Statement Display board: (If you have kids and want to involve them in the process, Gabby Douglas, has an excellent movie out that shows how a family vision statement displayed on a board was used powerfully in her family and her ability to reach her Olympic goals. The movie is called, The Gabby Douglas Story, and can be watched together as you start your own display board.)
* Display your board in any spot you like. This is a favorite spot in our home where the kids like to sit and read or play. As ideas come to their hearts they can post it on the board, and we can talk about their hopes and dreams for their life and their family.
* I hope this activity and visual display idea may help guide an individual, family, or group as they move forward. Family Vision Statements can help us be united in purpose, have a clear way to communicate our hearts and dreams, and help guide the priorities in our families. I invite you to be creative and enjoy the process of imperfect progress and celebrate life together!
~ Love, Joy
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